THE LAZINESS OF THE NIGERIAN ELITE | by Ayo Sogunro

Ayo Sogunro

One thing can be said about the Buhari administration: it does not shy away from explaining why the social and economic challenges of ordinary citizens are not its problem. Back in April 2016, Femi Adesina – the presidential spokesperson – glibly remarked that Nigerians who had been experiencing power failure should direct their complaints to pipeline vandals. A few weeks later, the Minister of information would also display his economic ingenuity by encouraging young men to seek career opportunities in his imaginary idea of a masquerade-dressing industry. This theme was continued last week when Professor Isaac Adewole, the Minister of Health, responded to a question on residency for doctors by declaring that not all doctors will become specialists. In Antoinette fashion, he argued that ‘some [doctors] will be farmers, some will be politicians’. He then revealed that his own tailor was a trained doctor who ‘makes the best gown’. As…

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My Thoughts on the Serena Williams Saga

The US OPEN finals was played Saturday night and a twenty year old, named Noami Osaka won one of the greatest players of the game to win the trophy which happens to be her first grand slam title. I am particularly happy for her because she deserved it, the games she had won showed she had worked really hard to get to where she was.

But I was saddled about how the events on that day turned out, the show which ought to be that of the winner eventually became that of the loser. So rather than we celebrating this young woman who had written history for herself and her country we were dragged into the muddy waters of sentiments and asinine. Twitter was all about Serena.

Before the match I was rooting for Serena, this is because she is an amazing woman and athlete, when you talk Serena you talk winning, grace, courage, determination, drive and resilience. I absolutely admire her. She however disappoined me, with the way and manner she reacted on Saturday to the punishment given her by the umpire. Serena Williams was furious at match umpire Carlos Ramos after he penalised the American in the second set.


The 36-year-old received a code violation after her coach Patrick Mouratoglou was adjudged to have coached her from the stands. This fact her coach admitted during the post match interview. Whether Serena approved of the illegality committed by her coach or not is really not our business or a fact In issue here. The fact was she was furious and acted absolutely unruly. One could argue that she is also human which i entirely agree with (i think we need to always give celebrities breaks as the aren’t immortals). Thus she been angry wasn’t wrong, she is allowed to be angry, however she disrespected a lot of us( who are her fans) by the words she uttered thereafter.

Serena Williams who was obviously pained by the effect of the punishment on her scores and the determination of Noami Osaka, who was ready to beat her idol, pulled the dumbest of stunt by playing the gender card, she couldn’t play the race card because her opponent was also black, so that would not have won her the pity she was craving. Serena called the umpire a thief then goes on to say that if she was a man the umpire wouldn’t have penalized her for verbally abusing him, she made reference to how other male players verbally abused officials and go scot free, then during the post match conference she makes if a gender issue and fighting for the rights of women. This is just absolute disrespected. She owe we her fans a sincere apology, for abusing our intelligence by chicanery and Noami Osaka for ruining what ought to be her best night.

Serena Williams is not only wrong to say that male athletes don’t get punished, that’s was absurd and let say she was right does it justify her verbally abusing someone?, so the fact that men get away with makes it right or what? if her moral values are as high as she paints its then she should know that abusing people in any form is wrong regardless of who says it.

If she was really fight for women, then she should have respected Noami. That young woman was sad and embarrassed that she won a championship she had worked really hard for and deserved. Noami cherished Serena a lot, when she was asked what message she has for Serena a day to the grand finale she shyly responded ” I love You”. After the match she went on this say that she knows that everyone was rooting for Serena before the match and that she is sorry it had to end that way. Again during the post match conference she said when she was going into the court to play she stoped been a Serena fan and played just like an ordinary player but when she hugged Serena after the match she felt like a kid.

Her words are really humbling, if Serena was really concerned about women she should have just let this girl flourish and own her night. Rather she stole the show, depriving another woman her accolades. She could have let things slide then address it on the media or appropriate authority. I love Serena Williams but Saturday was a no no for me.

Djokovic smashed his racket, he takes a point penalty and lost the game. He has been fined and suspended several times, but the world didn’t stop. Why should Serena’s case be different. Serena has abused and threatened other women verbally a lot of times, was she protecting women’s rights when she did that?. Then Gabrielle Union also went on to tweet the dumbest of all things that night( a story for another day). It appears that that my best woman athlete had a really bad night. Being quite would have been honourable.

PS: I love you, Serena Williams but I also love the truth.

10 Tips to Achieve Anything You Want in Life.

I’m no stranger to feeling stuck in life.

I’ve trained with some of the best coaches on the planet during my 20-year sports career, and again when I competed in the 2008 Olympics.

But when I wanted to start my own company, to share my knowledge about motivational psychology and training with others, it wasn’t as easy as I’d thought it would be.

Launching a new business is not easy. You have to give up the comforts of a stable paycheck to delve into the unknown, an unpredictable abyss. A lot of things keep us from making the leap—things like fear and insecurity. And one thing above all the rest: motivation.

When I looked back on my days as an athlete, I understood what was different. I remembered what (or who) made me push myself even when I didn’t want to. The difference was, as an athlete, I had structured days and a coach to report to. Structure keeps us focused and a coach keeps pushing and challenging us.

Thankfully I passed this stage and I founded Onbotraining, an online coaching service that helps people achieve their goals. I decided to collect the lessons I’ve learned along the way and to share them with others, like you, striving to better themselves.

So, here are my 10 best tips for achieving anything you want in life.

1. Focus on commitment, not motivation.

Just how committed are you to your goal? How important is it for you, and what are you willing to sacrifice in order to achieve it? If you find yourself fully committed, motivation will follow.

Here’s how to focus on commitment.

2. Seek knowledge, not results.

If you focus on the excitement of discovery, improving, exploring and experimenting, your motivation will always be fueled. If you focus only on results, your motivation will be like weather—it will die the minute you hit a storm. So the key is to focus on the journey, not the destination. Keep thinking about what you are learning along the way and what you can improve.

Here’s how to seek knowledge.

3. Make the journey fun.

It’s an awesome game! The minute you make it serious, there’s a big chance it will start carrying a heavy emotional weightand you will lose perspective and become stuck again.

Here’s how to make the journey fun.

4. Get rid of stagnating thoughts.

Thoughts influence feelings and feelings determine how you view your work. You have a lot of thoughts in your head, and you always have a choice of which ones to focus on: the ones that will make you emotionally stuck (fears, doubts) or the ones that will move you forward (excitement, experimenting, trying new things, stepping out of your comfort zone).

Here’s how to get rid of stagnating thoughts.

5. Use your imagination.

Next step after getting rid of negative thoughts is to use your imagination. When things go well, you are full of positive energy, and when you are experiencing difficulties, you need to be even more energetic. So rename your situation. If you keep repeating I hate my work, guess which feelings those words will evoke? It’s a matter of imagination! You can always find something to learn even from the worst boss in the world at the most boring job. I have a great exercise for you: Just for three days, think and say positive things only. See what happens.

Here’s how to use your imagination.

6. Stop being nice to yourself.

Motivation means action and action brings results. Sometimes your actions fail to bring the results you want. So you prefer to be nice to yourself and not put yourself in a difficult situation. You wait for the perfect timing, for an opportunity, while you drive yourself into stagnation and sometimes even into depression. Get out there, challenge yourself, do something that you want to do even if you are afraid.

Here’s how to stop being nice to yourself.

7. Get rid of distractions.

Meaningless things and distractions will always be in your way, especially those easy, usual things you would rather do instead of focusing on new challenging and meaningful projects. Learn to focus on what is the most important. Write a list of time-wasters and hold yourself accountable to not do them.

Here’s how to get rid of distractions.

8. Don’t rely on others.

You should never expect others to do it for you, not even your partner, friend or boss. They are all busy with their own needs. No one will make you happy or achieve your goals for you. It’s all on you.

Here’s how to not rely on others.

9. Plan.

Know your three steps forward. You do not need more. Fill out your weekly calendar, noting when you will do what and how. When-what-how is important to schedule. Review how each day went by what you learned and revise what you could improve.

Here’s how to plan.

10. Protect yourself from burnout.

It’s easy to burn out when you are very motivated. Observe yourself to recognize any signs of tiredness and take time to rest. Your body and mind rest when you schedule relaxation and fun time into your weekly calendar. Do diverse tasks, keep switching between something creative and logical, something physical and still, working alone and with a team. Switch locations. Meditate, or just take deep breaths, close your eyes, or focus on one thing for five minutes.

Here’s how to protect yourself from burnout.

You lack motivation not because you are lazy or don’t have a goal. Even the biggest stars, richest businesspeople or the most accomplished athletes get lost sometimes. What makes them motivated is the curiosity about how much better or faster they can get. So above all, be curious, and this will lead you to your goals and success.

Do have a blessed week ahead.

Written by Inga Stasiulionyte for the http://www.success.com